Dr. Alina Schulhofer

Insights

Relationships November 2, 2026

Why We Can’t Let Go: The Psychology of Trauma Bonds

The mind knows a relationship is unhealthy, yet the ache of longing remains — trauma bonds are rooted in early attachment wounds and the unconscious pull toward what feels most familiar.

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Relationships September 25, 2026

Is Sex Replacing Emotional Connection in Your Relationships?

Sexual closeness can become a substitute for emotional closeness rather than an extension of it — leaving physical intimacy feeling intense, yet still empty or alone.

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Leadership August 30, 2026

The Loneliness Problem of CEOs

“It’s lonely at the top” sounds cliché, but for many CEOs it’s a harsh reality — a weight of isolation that partners, family, and employees rarely see or understand.

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Performance August 29, 2026

Why High Performers Resist Deep Inner Work — And Why That Resistance Is Holding Them Back

Many high performers resist deep emotional work for fear of falling apart — but that avoidance may be exactly what’s holding them back from their greatest potential.

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Psychology August 28, 2026

Addicted to Achievement: When Success Becomes a Coping Mechanism

Ambition can stop feeling like a choice and begin to feel like a survival strategy — success as a means of seeking love, respect, and safety.

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Psychology July 9, 2026

Narcissism: Beyond the Buzzword

Reducing narcissism to a buzzword misses the point — it’s a spectrum of traits, rooted in early human development, that can be adaptive when healthy and destructive when pathological.

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Therapy June 18, 2026

Why Your Feelings Toward Your Therapist Are Worth Talking About

Feelings about your therapist — attachment, fear of judgment, even frustration — aren’t a distraction from the work. They’re often the doorway to it.

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Psychology May 22, 2026

Understanding the Gifts (and Challenges) of Neurodivergence in High Performance

Many of the traits that drive excellence — creativity, hyperfocus, pattern recognition — are often associated with neurodivergent wiring. Accurate diagnosis matters more than pop-culture labels.

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Psychology April 5, 2026

Beyond BDSM: Masochism in Everyday Life

Masochism isn’t about a desire for suffering — it’s a deeper conviction, formed long ago, that enduring pain achieves something important, or prevents something even worse.

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Leadership March 14, 2026

When Personality Shapes Performance

Who you are relationally is who you are professionally — personality traits like avoidance don’t stay outside the office; they shape how leaders communicate, decide, and lead.

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Leadership January 20, 2026

5 Ways Executive Coaching Can Actually Improve Your Leadership Skills

Executive coaching isn’t only remedial — it’s preventative, helping leaders build the inner foundation for long-term resilience before a crisis ever manifests.

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